Image 1 of 10: Do not curse! Ramadan is a time for patience and humility as well as spiritual cleansing of mind and body. Even when
tested by others, one should abstain from ill-temper & impatience. Instead, smile- to inject the day with a note
of positive energy and uplifting spirit.
Image 1 of 10: Abstinence from marital relations or sexual intercourse: During the fast, all appetites of the flesh are abstained from, including
'unclean' thoughts of intimacy. After
'Iftar', sexual intimacy can be resumed. Take day time for family & tell your
Ma you love her! Spare a cuddle for your sister!
Image 1 of 10: This does not mean practice stinginess with loved ones. Instead be economically resourceful. Ramadan, like Christmas,
is becoming more commercial and people tend to spend more on food & luxuries.
Do give generously to the needy and share your love & bounty. After all Ramadan is Kareem (generous)!
Image 1 of 10: Stay awake! Across the Muslim world, the routine can change so that day & night are
reversed. But the whole point of the exercise is to carry as normal. Avoid the temptation to sleep all day til Iftar. Still, do enjoy
later nights, with Suhoor - a light meal- and stay active with Ramadan prayers.
Image 1 of 10: Don't over-eat: It's tempting, but the 'correct' Iftar is a simple meal, since the idea is to exercise restraint this month and
not waste food. But let's face it it's hard not to
eat that extra bite when deprived all day, so just in case you overdo it, keep an indigestion medication on hand!
Image 1 of 10: Be creative & resourceful: Don't be driven to distraction by fantasies of what you'll be eating at Iftar. Do instead use
the food-less space as an opportunity for focus, motivation and productivity. With nothing else to do but work and errands
you've put aside
for a rainy day, work that fast away!
Image 1 of 10: Don't smoke during hours of the fast: wait til Iftar, when you'll often see people light up (after
that first sip of water and date or two!). Instead try to practice healthy activities and take a pre-Iftar stroll or post-Iftar walk with
family. Do enjoy some Ramadan sweets- just not to excess.
Image 1 of 10: Don't drink alcohol in the hours of the fast, or indeed during the entire Holy Month. Ramadan is a time to respect the true
Islamic doctrine which includes no drinking.Instead, do enjoy the Ramadan drink offerings (non-alcoholic seasonal treats
such as: Amar il Deen; Jallab, Tamer Hindi, Sahlab.
Image 1 of 10: Don't dress down! (Meaning do not bare flesh or revealing attire) Just because Ramadan might fall in the hottest month of the
year, this is not an invitation to exhibit your summer tan. Do dress conservatively: opt for modest, looser clothing ladies,
and avoid shorts above the knees, men.
Image 1 of 10: Don't drive like crazy, breaking all speed limits, or engine's capacity, to reach your 'Iftar'. Causing an accident or fatality will save
you no time in reaching your destination. Do be on time for Iftar- it is very bad form to arrive late after the sun-down, when
people have already started eating.
Ramadan is a time of rules and regulations- but this does not preclude having a fulfilling and joyful Holy Month- and there are certainly benefits to be gained this month.
Ramadan is a time for practicing self-restraint. The order of the month is piety and sobriety with less pleasures of flesh than ordinarily enjoyed. Because if you can refrain from your lawful pleasures for God's sake, with full freedom to do so, it would be easier for you to stop doing what is unlawful and forbidden.
As stressed in the Holy Quran, fasting is basically prescribed on Muslims to learn piety and righteousness. “Fasting provides us with motivation, self-control and firm will to give up bad manners and habits, otherwise such a vital worship will turn futile,” said Imam of Al Faruq Masjid Shaikh Mohammed Al Arabi.
While it is seen to be a time when economic productivity may drop, the true manner in which it should be practiced ought to allow for focus and productivity in the day-light hours, when the mind is not distracted from temptations of the flesh.
When a Muslim fasts, all his organs fast too. "I mean his tongue should fast, i.e. he should not backbite or lie, for example. His eyes should not look at what Allah obligates as forbidden. His legs should not walk to places where such a person would commit a sin, etc…", according to a Muslim scholar. "Since Allah is the Creator of Man, then He is the best One to know what is beneficial for him and what makes him develop to the better. When a person fasts from dawn to sunset, he/she abstains from food and drink, along with sexual intercourse if he/she is married. Thus, he stops eating or drinking what is lawful, in obedience to his Creator and he/she would be the one who gets the benefit too."
The above display of Ramadan Do's and Don't's is not an idiot's guide nor a Wiki-How to do Ramadan; instead it touches on some of the points that you may already know of, adding some creative ideas for how you can 'get it right' this Ramadan if you're practicing the Holy Month, or else better understand or even support your neighbors who are.
Reminder of Ramadan terms:
Iftar: The meal taken to break the fast at sun-down.
Suhoor: The traditionally light meal taken late night or early hours before starting the fast, from dawn.