Have you ever felt like you are a fraud? That you do not deserve that job promotion? Or that you simply doubt whether you are good enough at what you do?
Well, the good and bad news is that you are not alone. Many people go through what is called Imposter Syndrome. Simply put, imposter syndrome occurs when someone doubts their own abilities or believes that they are not as competent as others perceive them.
And despite the fact that imposter syndrome is not classified as a disorder in the DMS (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders), around 70% of people might experience it at least once in their lifetime. Furthermore, a study conducted by KPMG states that about 75% of women experience imposter syndrome in their career.
The problem with imposter syndrome is that anyone can experience it. Even successful and accomplished people might believe that they just got lucky. It is as if that no matter how much you accomplish, there is still a nagging voice in your head telling you that you are a phony.
These kinds of thoughts usually stem from our core self-beliefs, environment and family. Our core beliefs shape both the way we perceive ourselves and our lives. And with doubt accommodating every corner of our minds, our lives can be significantly impacted. Feeling like a phony or an imposter might even lead to depression and anxiety.
So now that we cleared the air on what imposter syndrome really is, let us get down to how we can overcome it!
Acknowledge your thoughts and put them in perspective, knowing what you are dealing with is a great first step to know your next move. Make sure not to resist your feelings and thoughts, but instead embrace them.
Talk about your feelings and thoughts. When we ignore our thoughts and feelings, they tend to stick around. That is why talking to a family member, a friend or a therapist can be helpful.
Look at facts, ask yourself about your achievements so far. Assessing your abilities and accomplishments realistically might be able to give you a window into who you really are, without the self-doubt. Our thoughts lie to us so many times, so make sure to set the record straight!
It is important to know that you are not alone in this. Different types of people experience imposter syndrome and have to fight their way through it. And that is why it is instrumental that we talk about it and share our experiences, because this way people will feel less alone and we can collectively work together and help one another.
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