We are all vulnerable to hardships and difficult times that can cause severe mental and emotional distress. But what differentiates one person from another is their ability to push through and overcome these challenges.
One of the most important driving forces that helps people overcome adversities is resilience.
Resilience is the ability to withstand and overcome difficult and traumatic events. It is what gives people the psychological strength they need to push through and regain control of their lives after experiencing a distressing time.
Resilient people understand that we are all prone to the ups and downs of life and they do not allow themselves to fall into the despair of grief.
That is not to say resilient people do not experience as much hardships, but instead it means that they have healthy coping mechanisms that help them keep going. Whether it is spending time with family or friends, doing some yoga or journaling, make sure that you are building healthy coping skills that will help you take care of yourself.
The absence or presence of resilience depends on several factors, such as genetics, environment and temperament. While some people can develop mental health issues after a traumatic event, others can display resilience and push through it without being susceptible to any mental illness. So what does that mean for those of us who do not have that high a level of resilience?
The answer is simple, we learn how to foster it and then slowly master it!
- Manage your stress
Knowing what causes you stress is the first step in learning how to deal with it. It is imperative that we become aware of what triggers our stress so that we can build healthy stress management habits.
- Remember, you are in control
Your thoughts do not control you, but you control them. It is important to continuously remind ourselves of that so that we do not become completely engulfed by our thoughts.
Instead of looking at what is causing us distress, it is necessary to also look at things from a realistic point of view and try to find ways to overcome the adversity at hand.
By learning to look at things from a different perspective, we are reframing our thoughts to become more positive and hopeful.
- Ask for help
Asking for help does not make you weak. It is important to ask for the support of family and friends or even seek professional help if you feel like you need it. Remember, you are not alone and we were not born to get through life on our own.
Finding ways to foster resilience in ourselves is not only important to lead a healthy life and grow, but it is also imperative so that we can foster it in kids and teens. Thanks to neuroplasticity, children’s brains are flexible and are shaped by the experiences they live through.
However, many believe that in order for kids to become resilient then they have to experience traumatic events, but that cannot be further from the truth.
Resilience can also be fostered in a loving and supportive environment. By believing in them, encouraging them and giving them the tools they need to grow and prosper, you are also teaching them resilience.
Resilience is what allows people to push through and come out on the other side stronger and better.
