Don't Be 'Selfish', Support Your Husband In Marrying a Second Wife: Saudi Paper

Don't Be 'Selfish', Support Your Husband In Marrying a Second Wife: Saudi Paper
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Saudi women who resist their husbands taking a second wife are “selfish” and “ignorant of Shariah,” a Saudi publication has claimed (Shuttershock)
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by Rosie Alfatlawi

Saudi women who resist their husbands taking a second wife are “selfish” and “ignorant of Shariah,” a Saudi publication has claimed.

In fact, it suggested, “boring” women are actually to blame for their husbands’ “desperation”  which pushes them to cheat.

Instead of tolerating “sinful” extramarital affairs, women should respect Islamic law and allow their spouses’ remarriage, it concluded.

The controversial opinion piece, originally published by Jeddah-based Al-Bilad paper and later translated into English for the Saudi Gazette, has sparked anger from across the spectrum.

Commenters called the piece “stupid” and “absurd,” branding polygamy in this interpretation “just a way to legalize cheating.”

Writer Nefeen Abbas had previously tackled such issues as “men’s jealousy over the success of their wives” and, bizarrely, why women should not marry a married man.

Abbas' claim that “men generally get bored with their wives after a while” and that polygyny is a legitimate solution to this has drawn criticism from religious conservatives in particular.

Datash bin Arqan gained 149 likes for his comment that in Islam taking multiple wives is intended “to support women” as in cases of widows or divorced women. “This opportunity is not to fulfil extra desires,” he continued.

“If the man has real taqwah [piety] and eeman [faith] he [cannot] even think about [taking] a glance [at] another woman that [is] not his wife…” commented Noor Aishah.

Marrying up to four wives is permitted under the Saudi Arabia’s strict interpretation of Islamic law. Saudi-owned Al-Arabiya reported in Oct. 2016 that more than half-a-million Saudi men had more than one spouse.

Still, the practise remains controversial in the Gulf, as responses to the hashtag “a second wife is a treatment for the cold,” which trended over the weekend, reveal.

“A wife is not a commodity such that you can threaten her with marriage [to someone else],” tweeted @mmooo777 using the tag, while @aahm007 added that “she is a human not a blanket.”

“How long will this vile outlook continue?” asked @Waelalanazi2030. “The woman is not just a body, change your sexualized outlook, and respect yourselves at least.”

Saudi Arabia has received international praise in recent months for what has been branded its “reform” program which has seen greater freedoms granted to women.

On Friday, Saudi women were allowed to enter sports stadiums for the first time, in an event that drew widespread attention and applause.

Nonetheless, attitudes like those expressed by Abbas remain prevalent in Saudi society, a situation shown by numerous responses backing her “insightful”  and "valid" article.

It is these viewpoints, along with continued institutional sexism, which still dictate the daily reality for many Saudi women, rather than the well-publicized changes.

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